Shout it out
“The more you’re interrupting and seeking data, you’re pulling them back.” “You’re actually slowing them down,” Fuller says.
#Shout it out how to#
How to cope: If she starts yelling, interrupt and ask for more details. She is theatric, disorganized and very vocal about her insults. How to spot her: She uses intimidation to accomplish her goals. She thinks she needs to yell in order for people to respond immediately. How she operates: Extremely aggressive and loud, she is demanding and will yell at you any time she finds a fault. We spoke with Fuller about the eight types of workplace bitches and how any woman can identify and combat them. For example, it might help to discreetly educate a co-worker who is acting distastefully because she is insecure that she isn’t doing her job, or simply keep your distance from a woman who will use anything you say against you. Instead, she recommends women employ careful tactics specific to the type of bitch they’re facing. “If they try to confront the other person by doing the same thing back, they don’t do it very well.” “They are not women who scream - they don’t have the skills, the body language, to go with it,” Fuller adds.
Moreover, women who are bothered by such coworkers “aren’t women who are historically able to be nasty or be cruel,” says Fuller - so confronting their tormenters isn’t a good idea. “Bitchy tactics tend to be very subtle and hard to prove,” she notes. Often, says Fuller, women who are targeted by workplace bitches are on their own: Managers might think they are imagining the bad behavior or blowing it out of proportion. The result, “Working With Bitches,” out March 26, outlines how women can rise above low-blow tactics - all while maintaining a tolerable work environment. So she decided to write a book to help women cope.
“They found themselves coming home feeling out of sorts, embarrassed and ashamed.” “I saw an increase in their distress, caused by individual problems with someone in the workplace,” says Fuller, 57. Meredith Fuller was well into her 32-year career as a psychologist when she noticed a disturbing trend: Her female clients were anxious and depressed - because their co-workers were backstabbing and undermining. Excluders are dismissive and “forget” to pass along important information.